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Is this the end for GongClough?????????????????
Posted 2 years ago

Right don't worry blog fans im not going to top myself and ive not got any plans to take down my profile either!

The point of this blog is to seek the opinion of my fellow bloggers and maybe try and get a little insite into something. For those of you who don't know my parents, like so many others, are divorced. Not so strange so far ok. Well me and my dad don't speak AT ALL! ive not uttered a word to him or been anywhere near him for well over 2 years now and frankly ive got no intention of ever speaking to or seeing him again!! I don't want to go into boring details over why.

Now the tricky part, my mam told me this past week that she is going to see her solicitor on Monday to have her name changed back to her Maiden name of Rewberry, also standard stuff. However the thought that has crossed my mind is

Do I want to change my name?

Seeing as i don't want anything to do with my Dad why should i carry his name around? Is it inherently my name and therefore i sould stick with it or should i change it cause obviously im close to my mother, for those who don't know she lives with me at my place cause she had no-where else to go once the rental lease on her old flat ran out.

So i ask you all for all and any thoughts regarding this. Have u been through something similar? Have u actually done what im contemplating? Thanking you all for your time. Your friend..

Gong


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mmm a tricky one, this situation came up in my family...I'm closer to my dad so kept my dads name and my sister is closer to my mum so changed to her name.....I suppose you need to do what you feel is right....
dont know what uv decided to do babe but i am in the exact same situation.i am best friends with my mum and i dont talk to my dad anymore.u have to do what u feel is right for u.who do u feel like a clough or someone different?its a big decision.i am a seymour.my mum is a peters.it would be very weird for me.if u need a chat mail me and ill giv u my no.xxx
  • grif
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  • 12/06/07 16:41

It is your call after all mate but they do say that the male is the only one who can carry the family name on (Obviuos I know) but if you feel strongly enough about it or your dad has pissed you off to this extent it must be seroius enough to be thinking like this my friend. Have you no brother's or sisters's you can ask??? Sorry it's not much help mate but I hope you can sort it all out and you carry on as the ZOO legend you are, take care and good luck to you bud!!
be who you want to be !
Heya gong lad.
I haven't been through this myself nor do i know of anyone who has, But if i was in your boat i would put it down to how much i hated the man, because yeah ya thinking of changing ya name but your also going to be changing every identification of yourself from ya driving licence, passport, bank..etc.
So i'd say do i hate him enough to sort all that crap out, and if the answers yes, then goodbye old surname, Hello mam's maiden name.
All the best to ya gong lad.
p.s. you'll have to go by "the guy formally known as gong" on here though, or a symbol like that funky prince fella lol.
Gongberry? Gongrew? Gongrewberry? How would this work?
In another attempt to take over my existence gong, you are trying to hijack part of my name. My surname is Berry.
You sir, are a shameless identity thief.
'Tis but thy name that is my enemy;
Thou art thyself, though not a Clough.
What's Clough? it is nor hand, nor foot,
Nor arm, nor face, nor any other part
Belonging to a man. O, be some other name!
What's in a name? that which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet;
So Gong would, were he not Clough call'd,
Retain that dear perfection which he owes
Without that title. Gong, doff thy name. Lol.
Hey gong,sounds like a interesting one let me put my jeremy kyle head on?Chap if you dont speak to your old man and he wont speak to you buddy,there is no future there matey,so if i was you change the name and stick with your der old mam.Thats what i do anyway and get on with the rest of your life mate,never dwell in the past mate cause the more you dwell the more you'll regret not gettin on with things.Good luck buddy boy!
Hello Mark, hope you are well albeit in a bit of a dilemma! Ok so because you'd like to know what we would do i'll tell you...You despise your Dad, you never want to see him again but you will always have part of him in you. You were born with his surname and that makes you who you are now, unlike your Dad you can do the Clough name proud! Yes I would be very tempted to change my name to that of your mothers' maiden name because she has been the real nurturer, however remember your Mum is changing her name not out of spite but because she isn't married to your Dad anymore so she has to start again, as is tradition a woman's surname only changes in marriage. I hope this helps Mark...be proud of who you are xxx
hmm...its not quite the same but my dad remarried to my step mum who already had two grown children. They both dislike their father and have sinced changed their surname from their fathers to the same surname as my fathers (and mine obv!). think its just a personal choice and thats what ur mum decided to do - my question is, did it occur to you to change ur name before ur mum decided? or is it PURELY coz ur mum has? it really has to be something you WANT to do, not because you feel obliged. I dont share the same name as some of my blood family but it doesnt make them any the less my family :-) xxxxx
  • heedy
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  • 08/06/07 08:39

do what you feel is right mate my mam and dad split then divorced when i was young and i hated my fatha for it then the family got together to try and reconcile we used to go and see me dad but i was in me teens and had the attitude "cant be arsed" plus my mams side of the family were against him so i only got there side of what went on. Went on holiday to ibiza at 18 came home to find out he had died of cancer not sayin i feel guilty but when the lads say "am gan for a pint with me old man" i kinda think am missin out on something not sayin we would be best pals but unless what ya dad has done is megga bad you shud always remember hes your dad and there must have been some good times a names a name at the end of the day but im still proud to have my dads name and hope to carry it on in future generations . DO WHAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT MATE but dont rush in
ps sorry about the short story...
do what feels right to you, your name is nothing other than something written on a legal document, its what you choose to do with your life that matters
True to follow your heart mate and it sounds like you and your mum are as close as everybody should be to there mums! Your mum is your family and a surname is a "family" name. Not saying you should but if it were me I'd change mine. Like you said you want nothing to do with your dad. Its a tough call but & its understandable if you change your name.
follow your heart
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